For and against
I wonder what my children think when they look at me. Do they think, "He's against bad posture" or "He doesn't want us to have a sore back like him in future". Do they think, "He's against laziness" or "He believes we can be awesome if we do our best". Do they think, "He's against lying" or "He loves me even when I lie". Today's culture prizes warm fuzziness and unconditional support, so you might think I want the latter more than the former. But actually, I think both are important. C.S. Lewis said, in The Problem of Pain, "Of all the powers, love forgives the most, and condones the least." Love forgives the most. But condones the least. It's true that I love my kids, and I will love them no matter what mischief they get up to. It's true that I think they can be awesome and I will continue to think so even when they let me down. But they know, and I want them to know,...